Polygamy:Polygyny and Polyandry

Ploygamy as I understand it is being married to multiple partners.
Polygyny is a man married to multiple women.
Polyandry is a woman married to multiple men.

Now that that's established, I'll explain why I am opposed all of these. The most prevelant reason I have is God. Yes, I've heard the argument that God allowed men to have multiple wives in the bible, but when referring to marriage He is always found to refer to a man and a woman. Also, the gene pool was very different in those days.

I will, however, not focus on this concept, but I will attempt to give some other reasons that I think will foster some thought.

First, there are the personal issues that many women have. I know of many women who are in monogomous relationships, yet are a little, if not very, insecure. In our society, we promote sex. It is all over the media. It seems like we cannot escape it. Along with this, we imply, and sometimes bluntly state, that there is an ideal image a woman should have. Truth, if every woman is different, then there shouldn't be one look they should all have. The only ideal is Eve. Anyway, for the reason of trying to obtain this society's ideal image,, many women find themselves insecure and never satisfied with who they are or how they look. We often measure our beauty by how attractive others, especially those of the opposite sex, find us. In a mate, most women want to be the most beautiful, sexy woman in their eyes. I believe that most women, who aren't naive, have realized that this is not likely. However, there are things that men can do to help keep there women feeling secure and confident in themselves and in their relationship. Now, if women are truly as jealous as they are often made out to be, how are they at all satisfied being in a polygynous relationship? As it is, women often feel like they must compete with other women to get a mate in the first place. How can a woman be secure in having a mate and being forced to share him? My only thought is that perhaps she isn't looking for security from her mate in love. Maybe her self-esteem has been so broken that she feels this type of the relationship is all she can get. I should make it clear that I am not referring to those women who are "forced" for economic reasons or family pressure. I am referring to those women who claim that they choose to live in this type of relationship. Bluntly, I don't believe them. It is these same women who wind up committing suicide or overdosing because they are depressed. It is these same women that end up with STDs. It seems apparent that these women are some of the unhappiest.

As for polyandry, this seems to be something less common, but don't be mistaken because it does exist. I am told that there are some cultures that practice polyandry in Nupal. Anyway, I am told that the way this usually works is that the oldest son in a family chooses a wife and that woman marries him and all of his brothers. Not only does this make it impossible to distinguish siblings from cousins, but how is it possible to share true intimacy? This one woman would be forced to divide her time, mind, and body among many men. Each relationship would pretty much run on some type of rigid schedule. Assuming that all the men will want children, the woman will be left at home with many presumably young children. Her body will eventually tire. Though we don't often hear about men competing for a woman's affection, they do. Men can be just as insecure, if not more so, than women. Can a man feel he is in a fulfilling, passionate, meaningful relationship when he is forced to marry a woman because his older brother says so? This just seems to go against an innate sense of love we humans have.

On these matters, I could go on for hours. However, these were some strong oppositions in my head. Perhaps I will continue this some other time.